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So with that being said this is what we CAN change from the above list:
how we think about our children and how often they visit
what we think about the weather and how to make the best of it
if it snows build a snowman or go skiing (one example)
we can plan our schedule to fit the “day” of the week
only deal with what’s IN your boat and let the rest go
your PAST is exactly that, but we can think about the present before we regret it and then it becomes the PAST which we can NOT change
we can NOT change other people, so you might as well get used tot he fact, deal with them or cut bait, the CHOICE is yours, of course you can always set the rules when it’s YOUR home
what’s been said to you, can NEVER be taken back, so try as may that fact remains, but you can try and erase that memory and create a new one to take it’s place
your children’s selection of mates is out of your control, but them again there is that reverse psychology technique that worked when they were younger, love the person, and then they think twice if you like them (of course I’m joking here)
I came across a site on Stress Management which I’ll let you look at in your leisure time if you wish. I am going to sum it up for you as best as I can. First we need to identify our sources of stress and they may be hidden behind the things we “think” are causing our stresses. Also, we need to take a look at our own stressors like our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This is where everything starts and this is where we CAN change. Remember we can NOT change other people so give that one up, (there I’ve jjust saved you HALF of your stress).
Here’s what the experts say about dreamcrushers:
Don’t let negative comments bring you down. There are a lot of cynical people in this world who have a very negative view of anything that is different from what they do.
Some of them are people who gave up on their own dreams long ago, and deep down, they resent your enthusiasm, your aspirations, and your persistence in following your own dream, simply because they gave up on theirs.
I have put together an Acronym for you to remember what to do next time someone rains on your parade: UMBRELLAS
U: Understand they are coming from fear, their own
M: Mouth SHUT! Remember the Treasure Mapping rule, keep it to yourself
B: Blessings, send them thousands of blessings silently during your morning meditation
R: Remember the 2nd Agreement (Don Ruiz) Don’t take it personal
E: Experience, chalk it up as just that
L: Learn from the experience, there may be a lesson in it for you
L: Laugh it off, joke about it, humor is a lifesaver
A: Assume it wasn’t intentional, it usually never is,
S: SILENCE, (see M)
I hope this helps next time someone rains on your parade just remember to have your umbrella ready!